Thursday, November 11, 2010

Worry About Your Children?

Worry, Yes Indeed
Even though I knew that “worry was like a rocking chair, it keeps you busy but you don’t go anywhere,” I have always been a worrier. Will I always worry about my children? Maybe so.

Then I got the following in the email from my friend Betty. Read on…

WorrierIs there an imaginary cutoff period when offspring become accountable for their own actions? Is there some wonderful moment when parents can become detached spectators in the lives of their children and shrug, 'It's Their life,' and feel nothing?

When I was in my twenties, I stood in a hospital corridor waiting for doctors to put a few stitches in my daughter's head and I asked, 'When do you stop worrying?' The nurse said, 'When they get out of the accident stage..' My Parents just smiled faintly and said nothing.

When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little chair in a classroom and heard how one of my children talked incessantly, disrupted the class, and was headed for a career making license plates. As if to read my mind, a teacher said, 'Don't worry, they all go through this stage and then you can sit back, relax and enjoy them.' My Parents just smiled faintly and said nothing.

When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime waiting for the phone to ring, the cars to come home, the front door to open. A friend said, 'They're trying to find themselves. 'Don't worry! In a few years, they'll be adults. 'They'll be off on their own they'll be out of your hair' My Parents just smiled faintly And said nothing.

By the time I was 50, I was sick & tired of being vulnerable. I was still worrying over my children, but there was a new wrinkle.. Even though they were on their own I continued to anguish over their failures, be tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in their disappointments.. and there was nothing I could do about it. My Parents just smiled faintly and said nothing.

My friends said that when my kids got married I could stop worrying and lead my own life. I wanted to believe that, but I was haunted by my parent's warm smiles and their occasional, 'You look pale. Are you all right' ? 'Call me the minute you get home'. Are you depressed about something?'

My friends said that when I became a grandparent that I would get to enjoy the happy little voices yelling Grandma! Papa! But now I find that I worry just as much about the little kids as the big ones. How can anyone cope with all this Worry?

Can it be that parents are sentenced to a lifetime of worry? Is concern for one another handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of human frailties and the fears of the unknown? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue that elevates us to the highest form of earthly creation?

Recently, one of my own children became quite irritable, saying to me, 'Where were you? I've been calling for 3 days, and no one answered I was worried.' I smiled a warm smile.

The torch has been passed!

The above is so true. I do hope my children read this.

Tennessee Granddaddy Says:
I like brevity. I’m more apt to remember a few chosen words spoken than a multitude of chatter.

Some one said there were 3 rules to a good speech. A good beginning. A good ending. And keep them close together.

Quote of the Day
If it takes a lot of words to say what you have in mind, give it more thought.
~Dennis Roth
Joke of the Day

A lady walks into a shop one day she asks if she could try on a dress in the window.

The manager suggested it might be better to use the changing room.


As seen on a car bumper: “Driver does not carry cash. He is married.”

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1 comment:

madcobug said...

As long as you live you will never quit worrying about your children. When mine were small I had the idea that when they were grown tehn I could quit worrying , not so.